Monday 5/20/24
Someone who goes first always has the advantage, unless it's against someone who can always go better.
Everyone wants to be the show, but just about no one has anything happening on the stage.
People want me to think well of them. They put more stock in me thinking well of them than they do other people. Almost everyone is intimidated to an extreme degree by me. Not because of how I've acted towards them, but because of what I am. They fear that they will do or say something stupid, or not good enough, or not smart enough, etc., which will cause me to think less of them, and they also fear that they won't be able to say something worthy of what I'm doing, have done, or am about.
This almost always results in them 1. Saying nothing when they'd say something to anyone else about what it was they had done, no matter how meaningless 2. Playing it safe by saying something which is much less than what they think and feel, or acting like they don't see the elephant in a tea cup, let alone a room, all of which has the ironic effect of being the worst thing they could do or say, because there's no more effective way for that person to bring about that which they don't want to bring about.
I have no patience for cowardice, and nor will I allow myself to be treated a different way because I stand apart, in good ways, from everyone else. I'll be done. As I take no bait, I also expend no further energy on people who act this way towards me.
People make the mistake of thinking that time is the most precious commodity. Energy is much more important. Energy is life.
We have talked about this many times. Sincerity. People have a very hard time being sincere. A harder time than ever because of what this world has become. What is praised is that which no one honestly believes is any good, because it's very easy for people to say things they don't mean.
"Oh, that's great." Internet culture makes us even more this way, until it borders on the impossible for us to be any other. A person feels like it's not them who is on the line when they're saying something they don't mean. There's no risk. They're revealing nothing. It's not them, it's not what they think, what they believe. It's just lip service. They can't be judged, because it's just a token thing They're saying. It doesn't "count."
So someone can say, "That's great, that's great, that's great, oh, wow, good for you, super, way to go, hey, that's awesome," etc. etc. etc. when they do not mean those things and only when they don't mean those things.
But when they think something is great, and awesome, and someone has done something amazing, they can't express that. Because they cannot be sincere. That takes risk. They may be judged because they are being real. It's them. In their minds, they're on the line. It's not pretend, it's not just "something you say." It's real.
It's almost impossible for people to tell someone they think well of something pertaining to someone else when they really do think well of that something. The more they think well of that something, the harder it is.
The way "success" and popularity works, at present, is that people are only going to praise, go along with, award, things that they do not think are actually worthy of any of those things, but regarding which they can just do that lip service.
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